7 Promises to Make to Yourself after Divorce

After a whirlwind proposal and a fairy tale engagement celebration weekend, things have settled down a bit and fear is attempting to smack me around.  Right now, fear is winning this battle as the voices of self doubt scream ever so loudly in my head…

“What the fuck are you thinking?  You don’t know how to have a successful marriage!”

“You made bad choices in the past.  Can you really trust yourself this time?”

“You don’t deserve to be happy!  You have made so many mistakes in the past!”

“You are too old to be married again!  This is stupid!”

Thankfully, I have some great friends and an amazing partner to help talk me off the ledge.  But nonetheless, I still have to do some inner work and major self-talk to transition me through this period of anxiety.  I have to believe that I am not alone.  I can’t possibly be the only 52 year old woman remarrying after two failed marriages.  I’m probably not even the only woman that was married to men before realizing she was gay.  Or am I?